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[personal profile] darkemeralds
I sort of saw this coming. I mean, the question when you're about to retire is "What are your plans?" My answer has been, "To do nothing for a while and see what develops."

So here I am, a week in, with all the time in the world on my hands, and of course what develops is a mild case of the shoulds. It occurred to me this morning that there's an infinite list of things I "should" be doing with all this free time. What's at the top of the list varies from hour to hour, but it includes
  • Work on [____]
  • Finish [___]
  • Start [___]
  • Go and [___]
  • Decide on [___]
...you get the idea.

Trouble is, I don't really feel like doing any of those things right at the moment. Right at the moment, I'm on my second pot of coffee. I'm reading a so-so book that I wouldn't have taken time for in the past. It's rainy and windy out. The cat is asleep on the next chair.

So here's the big question: do I have the courage to follow through on my plan of making no plans until a plan comes and grabs me by the solar plexus and tugs me into action?

And while I'm trying to figure that out, should I maybe go out and buy some more coffee beans?

Date: 2014-01-08 10:19 pm (UTC)
branchandroot: oak against sky (Default)
From: [personal profile] branchandroot
I'd say buy more coffee beans and stick it out. After something like a stage production, the "omg, there's /got/ to be something I should be doing" phase lasts a few weeks before your backbrain catches up with "no, it's okay, we're done now". I'm betting it'll take at least a month or two after getting done with a whole career. And the thing about that phase is, it's /really/ hard to actually get anything at all done that you try to do during it. *wry* I'd say don't let your reflexes set you up to get frustrated.

Date: 2014-01-08 11:31 pm (UTC)
dine: (chairofbowlies - ink_stain)
From: [personal profile] dine
you should ignore the 'shoulds' for a while longer *g*

it'll probably take you some time for it to sink in that time is no longer such a limited commodity, that it's ok to spend hours reading a mediocre book instead of trying to accomplish 17 things. and since you're no longer on such tight timelines, it's likely that some tasks will expand to take longer (because why not).

enjoy this unusual period - and your coffee and books - and only do what you really feel like doing

Date: 2014-01-09 04:13 am (UTC)
dine: (maddow - padawanhilary)
From: [personal profile] dine
does next week seem doable for you?

as far as I know, I can probably arrange coverage for a long lunch (need to check once I have a specific day, just to be sure) - there's a semi-decent Thai place (Monsoon), as well as a German pub (Prost) across the street and of course the food carts, though they aren't all always open, and of course that's a less inviting option in this sort of weather.


Date: 2014-01-10 06:39 pm (UTC)
dine: (myrna - stubbleglitter)
From: [personal profile] dine
I think Wednesday would be good for me - I've checked with Em and the person who'd likely cover for me, and that should work for everyone. would 1:00 be ok for you? let me know, and we can figure out what appeals

Date: 2014-01-10 10:27 pm (UTC)
dine: (pansies - lanning)
From: [personal profile] dine
Monsoon sounds great to me - I'll see you there Wednesday at 1:00! be sure to let me know if anything comes up; we can always reschedule (your calendar is likely to be open, after all)

Date: 2014-01-12 07:15 pm (UTC)
dine: (post-its - neversince)
From: [personal profile] dine
exactly - Monsoon Thai, right on the corner. my office is diagonally across the street. I'll see you there at 1:00 on Wednesday!

Date: 2014-01-08 11:57 pm (UTC)
hunningham: (Default)
From: [personal profile] hunningham
Is 'gloating' one of the answers you could make when people ask what you're doing with your life?

Seriously, been retired for about six days? Give it six months before you worry too much about the next big thing.

Date: 2014-01-09 01:22 am (UTC)
lycomingst: (Default)
From: [personal profile] lycomingst
To make your sitting and coffee drinking just that much better, just revel in the envy you're inspiring in the hearts of other people. (That would be me. 8])

Date: 2014-01-09 02:34 am (UTC)
lycomingst: (gatekeeper)
From: [personal profile] lycomingst
No, no, gloat all you like. If I could retire tomorrow, I wouldn't move from the couch for weeks. I would just breath in and out and know that I didn't have to go anywhere. 8 ]

Date: 2014-01-09 02:59 am (UTC)
despina_moon: (Default)
From: [personal profile] despina_moon
Sheesh, it's only been eight days! I expect it's difficult to adjust, but it's all good. Something will hit you. If you must do something, which you might, maybe volunteer somewhere, but after January 31.

That's my two coffee beans!

Date: 2014-01-09 10:24 am (UTC)
ruric: (Default)
From: [personal profile] ruric
I do believe I agree with the "Do nothing" principle *G*

A few days after I was made redundant I left for a three week tour of the states. When I got back I sent the best part of 3-4 months doing nothing and then time doing gentle amounts of gardening and decorating (and selling the house in Shefield).

Give your brain and body time to catch up with each other!

Date: 2014-01-09 12:17 pm (UTC)
ravurian: (hugh dancy)
From: [personal profile] ravurian
I think you should conduct an experiment to see how long it is before you get twitchy and anxious about having no externally imposed schedule. For the first few weeks, your brain will switch you to vacation mode; it'll take longer for it to sink in to your body that you have no boundaries. The only danger, I think, is the drift towards mañana. It's jam every other day.

("The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterday – but never jam to-day."
"It must come sometimes to 'jam to-day'," Alice objected.
"No, it can't," said the Queen. "It's jam every other day: to-day isn't any other day, you know.")

Date: 2014-01-10 04:13 am (UTC)
ranunculus: (Default)
From: [personal profile] ranunculus
Two weeks is the Minimum time that I would set for the BEGINNING of a reset. Two weeks is the period of time when I begin to forget about work issues and begin to relax and just be in the moment. AFTER that point you can wind down and begin to discover who you are without the job. I bet that it takes more than a month for the "real" you to begin to have a voice, something like;
"If you are -really- not going to do -anything- I have a suggestion..."
Think of it as a time to refocus by doing exactly what you have always -fantasized- about doing: read books that have no literary value (who knows, you might like them!), rest on the couch, drink tea...



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