The Ink-Pot and the Palette

*waves* Fellow inadvertent-intimidator, gimme five. Only, you know, not too close. :D

Attachment theory is probably valid at some level--people manifestly do have different styles of relating, and there's apparently not much we can do to change the style we're coded with. Labeling one style as good and the other styles as disorders seems, IDK, a wee bit self-congratulatory.

Some of the literature hints that the "insecure" styles might have provided an evolutionary advantage, though it's anyone's guess what that might have been. Maybe if you're naturally detached, you don't suffer as much from isolation or lack of support when times are hard. You survive by looking out for yourself. There has to be some purpose for the trait, or it wouldn't exist. Genocide is not the answer (seriously, I've seen it proposed at least twice now by people commenting on articles/books about attachment).

Science is still looking for why homosexuality exists and why lefthandedness exists. And yet somehow society has gotten over its hatred of southpaws and we're making progress on gays, so I can hope that the toxic and exclusionary language around attachment theory might eventually be neutralized.