darkemeralds. One Sings, The Other Doesn't (Reply)

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Hi ravurian--I think "assault on the mouth" is overstating it. (As is "plying him with alcohol"--I'm pretty sure everybody at the party went expecting to consume as much alcohol as they could find.)

In addition to the greater physical vulnerability of women to men than men to other men, young women often have to make a very delicate calculus, which has little or nothing to do with their own desire. They have to provide sexual services on demand without being perceived as sluts. So far, this obligation is not imposed on young men.

The "consent is sexy" ficathon was kind of whistling past the graveyard, because sometimes passion doesn't survive negotiation. If there isn't a power imbalance that prevents the recipient from saying No, I think it's not immoral to make a physical pass at someone. Sometimes one appears more attractive while giving someone a big smooch than while going through a questionnaire: "Hello, there, Desirable Person! I wish to engage in sexual behaviors with you! On a scale of one to five, how would you rate these sexual behaviors?"

However, if the other person says, Dude, stop it! I agree that there is a moral obligation to stop it, to wait a reasonable time before renewing the application, and to scale down the next approach because the first was rejected.

It looked to me like the girlfriend drove away because she was angry at Non-Singing Dude for flirting. (I wasn't sure whose car it was btw--it really hurts if not only do you get shot down, but your buddy's girlfriend STEALS YOUR CAR.) And I'm not sure if it was a breakup so much as "See what happens if you annoy me? You have to walk all the way back to the barbecue."

We also don't know what happened before the events of the video--the thought balloon over Singing Dude's head might have been "Isn't this a great time for another one of those drunk hook-ups we never talk about?"

My own fic of this is that Singing Dude finds out that, while Non-Singing Dude isn't interested, that chubby guy in the Physics Club wants to play Dungeons & Dragons, if you know what I mean and I think you do.